A new book: Learn to Love & Be Loved in Return (Making Relationships Last)
by Dr Paul C Burr
Now available on Amazon.co.uk 
Publishers: www.bookshaker.com ("lovely people" - PB)
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Learn to Love and Be Loved in Return, goes way beyond the (flavour of the moment) Laws of Attraction. It reveals how to attract a prize far more important than any external ‘trophy’, we might set our hearts on.
The Book’s Promise
Love brings the most joy and causes the most stress in our lives. Learn to Love and Be Loved in Return guides people how to enter into a relationship and make it last. It provides new and profound insight into the physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of relationships. It discerns love from its disguises (not-love). The reader finds out what needs to happen, beyond love, for two people to come together and stay together in a relationship that flourishes. The book is filled with self coaching tips and easy-to-follow steps; a how-to guide that helps the reader go for what they set out to achieve in love and in life.
Synopsis
Learn to Love and Be Loved in Return unfurls four critical questions, the answers to which determine whether two people start a relationship. For two people to go on and succeed in a relationship, ‘Purpose’ and other factors come into play. The book constructs three ‘pillars’ by which a relationship stands or falls. The ‘pillars’ are built on a ‘bedrock’ that once broken, the relationship has nothing left to stand on. But something else, something far more profound, connects the ethers in and between the ‘pillars’ and their ‘bedrock’. This fundamental ingredient cannot be destroyed but it can be improved. It is ever-present in a relationship, throughout all its stages of development.
Readers discover how a relationship spirals upwards through 7 stages (at least once, if not several times) to achieve its fullest purpose. Most couples do not get past Stage 4. At Stage 4 each partner finds the spiritual reason they are together. They see a reflection of themselves in one another.
This leads us to realize that the summation of the relationships we attract in life, mirror the relationship we have with ourselves.
The book culminates in 7 self-coaching steps to move people or couples on in their journey, to live the lives and achieve the purpose they were born to achieve, through improved relationships.
Background
Learn to Love and Be Loved in Return is founded upon author, Paul Burr’s, 12 years of coaching experience. A business coach who found himself working extensively with people’s personal lives and detailed histories, to help them make the breakthroughs they seek. Paul was encouraged by Romilla Ready, Lead Author, Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies® to write the book. He was mentored by David Loxley, Chief Druid, The Druid Order, London and quotes David’s knowledge of druidic wisdom throughout the book.
Some ‘Straight-Talking’ Reviews….
Leading Psychologist, Pamela Steele (http://www.pamelasteeleehi.moonfruit.com/#/books-media-work/4524679581 )
“Hi Paul - Have just read your book and it's great. I agree with pretty much all you say. We are definitely on same wavelength re love!!! I love your authenticity, honesty and simplicity re a complex subject.”
Romilla Ready, Lead Author, Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies® www.relationshipwizardry.com
This book will help you to get the relationships you want by making you aware of the baggage that holds you in a place where you ‘know’ things should be different but you can’t break out.
But... be warned this book, as with all other self help tools, is a waste of money!!! Unless, of course, you not only read ALL of it and digest it but most importantly, do the exercises.
It has been fascinating to watch Paul, in his inimitable style, testing the concepts in this book by living through a fairly traumatic year and seeing him come out the other side, changed, a better human being who has learnt to be compassionate not just with other people but also with himself. At times, Paul would say he couldn’t write but it was only because he hadn’t learnt how to solve a problem with a relationship with which he was wrestling. So this book really is rooted in actual, real life experience and will help you short cut your learning curve, if you allow.
Aneeta Sundararaj, Editor and Author, How to Tell a Great Story http://www.howtotellagreatstory.com/
...this book has been a pleasure to edit. Most of the time, books on NLP are about the law of attraction and so on. I love the fact that this book goes beyond that. The content is fascinating and interesting. I learnt much from what was shared.
Kelly Scales, Yoga Teacher & Entrepreneur http://bidandborrow.com/
I loved the book - thanks so much for sharing. What did I like? - the combination of case stories and personal experience and insight combined with NLP, druidism and quotes. The dashboard is a really great tool and I'm still working my way through it. Well done you, I really felt it gave a huge sense of possibility - i.e. start with X and then who knows.... which is so lovely and uplifting for the reader. and for me (and I'm sure many of those who will read it) it was also a call to action …
About time I faced up to and broke my relationship patterns. yep, here goes....!
David Loxley, Chief Druid, The Druid Order, London
This book falls into a gap between too simple and too difficult to understand. If it were either, it would fail in its mission. Paul has put all of his experiences together and created something unique. This book is a DIY guide on how to build in the roots that support what kind of relationship you want and how long you want it to last. And be philosophical and learn when it doesn’t work out that way.
Paul shows us how we can choose freely, to start and sustain a loving relationship, rather than be driven by circumstances to make choices apparently beyond our control.
MW, Oxford
Well I took the plunge out of curiosity and purchased your book...
Read it avidly all weekend, and although not sure I understand it all and some of the mysticism is a little new to me, I thought it a very good read, with some moments of real clarity punctuating the experience.
...There will I suppose be a little resistance to the mystical side of the book from traditionalists, who will (like I nearly did) categorise it as "mumbo jumbo", but once I decided to give it a go I found it to be challenging to my pre-conceived ideas, which I like. It really was a new way of thinking for me with the inside out approach. So it could be a new way of thinking for people to find true love, life and happiness in whatever they commit to do.
I found your 7 steps to be amazingly practical and applicable in most areas of life. With the dashboard for success being my favourite, I just takes discipline and time in the planning stage - And I am going to give Meditation more of a go, as I found I enjoyed it giving me the chance to calm down and focus, rather than smash though my days serving nobody
Learn to Love & Be Loved in Return now on Amazon.co.uk
Kindle edition available: www.amazon.com/Learn-Love-Loved-Return-ebook/dp/B00387G0TM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&m=A7B2F8DUJ88VZ&s=digital-text&qid=1266500131&sr=1-1
You can read an interview about Learn to Love and Be Loved in Return at Aneeta Sundararaj's wonderful site for storytellers: http://www.howtotellagreatstory.com/byot/byot146.html
Email: p.burr@beowulfconsulting.co.uk
Business Website: www.beowulfconsulting.co.uk